Best Friends

When I sat down to post today I was planning to rant and rave about the joyous and not so joyous moments in being a mother, then I spoke to my best friend. She is one of the most amazing people in my  life, truly!! There have been days as a mother and a wife that I was ready to just throw in the towel. I have actually gotten in my car and headed out of town, certain that everyone would be better off with out me. Those are the days I pick up my phone (and thank goodness for cell phones) and called my best friend and she has talked me down. I don't think I have ever ended a call with her in which I wasn't laughing about the situation in which I was originally wanting to flee from. What makes her so great is that she doesn't judge, she will just listen. And I find that as I am relaying my stories to her I can see the humor in them. And of course she always reminds me through her own stories that I am not alone.....or crazy! Because lets be honest....you have to be a little crazy to be a mom. Yes I have revealed one of the best kept secrets in america and beyond.....you have to be a little crazy to make it through being a mom! It requires inward reflection pretty much everyday. Your constantly wondering what you did wrong, or what you forgot, or how to fix it. IT!!!! what is IT exactly. Well some days you have to just sit and try to figure that out....IT!! Then somewhere along the way you realize you were yet again "crazy" for trying to figure "IT" out in the first place because if you new what "IT" was it probably isn't yours to "fix"!!!

(ohhhhhh.........deep breath)

Ok back to best friends. I have been on of the luckiest girls ever. I have been blessed throughout my life with several best friends. Some I only get to talk to or write to a few times a year if were lucky. Others I speak to every couple months. And of course the best friends I speak to weekly and sometimes daily. Now I know there are those out there who's spouses are there best friends. And don't get me wrong, my husband is one of a kind and we talk about it all too. And I love talking with him. However, he is my partner in crime. We have to be a team, show no weakness. (I am flexing my huge bicep here ;) ) And we do take the time to laugh about it when its all said and done but really for this girl there is no way I could get through all the junk with out a good girl friend too.

Years ago I found this story that just seems to sum it all up.

The Broken Doll


One day my young daughter was late coming home from school. I was both annoyed and worried. When she came through the door, I demanded in my upset tone that she explain why she was late.
She said, "Mommy, I was walking home with Julie, and halfway home Julie dropped her doll and it broke into lots of little pieces."
"Oh honey," I replied, " you were late because you helped Julie pick up the pieces of her doll to put them back together."
In her young and innocent voice my daughter said, "No Mommy. I didn't know how to fix the doll. I just stayed to help Julie cry."

Thanks to all my friends who have just stayed and cried with me and laughed with me!! And to my best friend....I owe you my sanity:)